The Indian Divorce C

In many countries, one constant social problem is the rising number of divorces. The people who chose to get a divorce are generally called divorced in the West. In India, we are not called divorced or even single but divorcees.

This is to emphasize the non virginal second hard car status of divorced people in India. Since monogamy is now the fashion of Indian society   divorcees pose a threat implictly. (Note Indians /Hindus became monogamous only in 1950s)

To discourage unhappily married Indians from becoming swinging divorcees the honorable courts of India frown on contested divorces. In fact the only way you can get a divorce in less than a year is by mutual consent AND agreement on finances (called settlement).

In terms of custody battles, the divorcees have an uneven ground. Men being men are not given custody unless they can prove or bribe their ex wife to do so. Mutual custody is rare not a default.

What do the divorcees do? They go on OKCupid, Tinder, Truly Madly or such dating apps since from a social point of view non divorcees will rarely date divorced people. The tag or stigma stays. People are proud of being never married even at 35 even after 5 failed relationships, but the divorcee with one failed legal relationship has to endure unsolicited advice and questions.

This is how Indians talk to divorcees-

Are you single? No I am divorced

I am sorry  (Why I think)

(pause)

Questions follow

  1. So why did you get divorced
  2. Do you have a kid
  3. Was it tough

The divorcee has to answer these multiple times with truth before they wake up to Indian realities and give a curt and stable answer.

Why did you get divorced?  – Because I was unhappy fighting everyday

Do you have a kid? – Yes and he is 9 and I love him still and meet him

Was it tough ? – What do you think, buster

 

Author: Ajay Ohri

http://about.me/ajayohri

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